Nothing wrong with sharing these things with friends if done in moderation; you don’t need to share EVERYTHING! Here are some things NEVER to tell others about your relationship, they can and will be used against you.
MONEY
Never tell anyone how much your boo earns, or if you’re having money problems. People don’t need to know this. Who wears the financial pants? Who pays for what? If you have an agreement with le boo about how you both want to manage your finances then this should not be up for debate with your friends. The “you can chop my money” status of your relationship should be hidden.
BEDROOM
Do not share what went down last night, how you were kissed senseless, and how does this information affect the price of garri in the market? If your boo is a stallion and he steadily gives you the “D”, keep it to yourself unless you don’t mind sharing him? If you’re celibate avoid discussing it too as your friends may envy you, and if you’re not celibate, you may be tagged as “loose”. They will you no matter what.
DETAILS
Avoid giving details. “My boo’s favorite food is Amala and gbegiri, my boo scratches her b*bs first thing in the morning, my boo doesn’t like this or that”. Why are you furnishing others with this privileged information? Haven’t you heard stories where a friend snatches le boo? Why do you think that happens? They already know your boo’s likes, dislikes, habits e.t.c Do not tell anyone where your boo’s mumu button is (thanks Honeydame).
FIGHTS
Couples fight all the time, if you don’t fight in your relationship then I put it to you that you are a liar! LOL.
Friction is normal as long as you kiss and makeup… but telling your parents, and your friends about every single quarrel will not help. It’s always awkward because your friends will always be on your side and will keep condemning you boo… after you say they don’t respect him/her, why should they? After you’ve forgiven and moved on, those you told will always
remember. This point is null and void if your boo is abusive!
SECRETS
We all have secrets and your boo may have told you some of his/hers, it would be totally out of place for you to share something confidential like that with others. Also, if you have a secret you’re keeping from your boo then you should never tell someone else that “Biko I don’t want him/her to find out or my boo doesn’t know about this oh”…
you’re only giving outsiders ammunition. What if they accidentally or purposely Jabo the gist to your boo? Kasala go burst!
DREAMS/PLANS
Dreams, aspirations, and plans are things we share with people we love when your boo is telling you of the mansion he wants to build in 5 years, or the business he wants to start, avoid being a tatafo, and do NOT share this with anyone. Keep their plans and aspirations between the both of you.
Your partner will feel betrayed when they find out you’ve been talking about your private matters, they wouldn’t trust you with anything; If you discuss these matters with your colleagues it breeds see-finish, Biko stop. Your friends will wonder what you are saying about them to others if you can be so open with details of your boo’s life. People will think you have no self-control… they will never confide in you.
